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What does trust mean to you?

We all have our personal meaning and definition of trust. I’ll share you mine;-] Trust is a mere reflection of who I am.  In anything I trust I therefore care and commit to wit integrity.  If that which I care or commit fails me, I must learn from it.  Reacting in anger, betrayed, revenge, etc (creating the thought that I don’t trust, thus lacking trust) is only the reflection of self which creates a mental mind block and prevents one to learn and grow from the life lesson.  True trust comes from understanding, love, forgiveness to learn life lessons once to elevate one’s intuition and consciousness.  I trust my self, therefore I trust everyone around me, my situations and life;-]

Gratitude and Giving!

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.” –Marcus Tullius Cicero

My father, Murphy Kahuhu was the greatest mentor of appreciation and gratitude. Whenever I speak to a Tacoma Police Officer who knew my father, they talk about how much they loved him as a brother.
“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” -Margaret Cousins
I know one reason why others loved my father as a brother is that he would express his appreciation and gratitude to those around him. My father would always help and serve others whenever possible.
One great example, I will never forget, was when I moved back to live with my father at the end of my 8th grade year. Before, I was living with my mother and attending Bremerton Middle School. I went to Cedar Heights Junior High School for one day and didn’t like it. I felt intimidated by the large population of the Junior High School and the academic education. So, I asked if he could take me back to Bremerton Middle School to finish out the school year. I committed to him that I would attend Cedar Heights Junior High School next year. My younger brother, Sloane wanted to transfer and attend Bremerton Middle School wit me as I finished out the year. There was a shorter route to the Middle that my father drove to drop us off in the back of the school, knowing that we didn’t want anyone to see us in the beat up car my father drove. We were poor at the time and our father drove an old gray buickelectra. Under the hood of that beat up beast there were small 2×4 blocks, a large rock, and tire bike tubes to hold parts down in the engine. Then, one day, all of a sudden, my father started to drive the long way, which was almost twice the distance! I didn’t understand why he suddenly would drive the long way, especially when he was extremely tired from working two jobs (Tacoma Police Department and security at Foss High School)! The long way was THE WORST WAY! My father had to drive in front of the school to drop us off in the back! He drove that route everyday in the morning till the last day of school! My brother and I always ducked our heads and hit the bottom of the floor of the beat up beast well before my father drove in front of the school. We were in fear and extremely embarrassed that our friends might see us in that old beater beast that blew out black smoke and constantly backfired. Nevertheless, our father would continue to drive, with his head up high and always chastise us saying, “God gave us this car and you should be grateful my sons that we have a vehicle to drive you to school” but at that time those words did not penetrate our minds and we continue to always duck our heads and hit the floor each time he drove in front of the school. Nevertheless, I remember him working his regular shifts and extra security at Foss High School. His yellow, blood shot eyes were evident that his body took a heavy physical toll transporting us daily to and from school. This was the first time I notice the immense and deep love our father had for me and my siblings. My father will always and forever be the greatest example and mentor of gratitude.

Power of Giving!
(Charity and Service)

Giving is Gratitude and Appreciation in Action!

“Give what you have. To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.” –Longfellow

My father was the greatest mentor, teacher and example of service and giving. He took my younger brother, Sloane and I to service projects almost every Saturday morning. The only time he gave us a break was during wrestling season, since it was during the winter time and our schedule was maxed out with church, youth activities, school, sports and scouting. We woke up at 4:00 am and didn’t get home till 6:00 pm from wrestling practice. At the time, we complained a little, not understanding the concept of service.

“I have three precious things which I hold fast and prize. The first is gentleness; the second is frugal; the third is humility, which keeps me from putting myself before others. Be gentle and you can be bold; be frugal and you can be liberal; avoid putting yourself before others and you can become a leader among men.”
-Lao tzu

There were many benefits of true charity and service. I define true charity and service is giving of ones self (time and money) without expecting anything in return. In fact, when I set up my space over three years ago for the first time, I had typed out,

“What is true charity and service?”
Serving others without expecting anything in return”

Sometimes, especially in relationships, you might give so much to someone, thinking and hoping or expecting to get back something in return. In the end, you will only feel disappointed and frustrated. Even, angry and upset that the person let you down which will lead to feelings of resentment or feeling that you might have been “used.” That’s not true charity and service or giving.

Another, false feeling of giving is that it is expected from you. You give to avoid embarrassment or gain recognition from someone or society. You might even give your time to write a book or promote online marketing, thinking that you can make money or a difference by helping others, expecting in return fame and fortune. That’s not true charity and service or giving. As I share contents my book with my family and friends, they respond and act as if this book will propel me to a higher status in society. I always respond with intense emotional thoughts of my father and son, the real reason I’m writing a super self success book is in memory of my father and too leave behind instructional guidelines to life successes and abundance to my son, Zander that can be immortalized through publication. It is the thoughts of my son that drives my deep desire to produce powerful emotional energy and powerful persistence of fueled feelings to write and compile my book. Anything else in return will be a blessing.

I love helping others when I can. Being as a Good Samaritan or doing a “Good Deed” for the day. There are many ways we can do this first in little ways that can become and develop into something larger. There are always opportunities to help family, close friends, neighbors, strangers and charitable organizations through our time and money (tithes). Always, help others when you can. Be courteous by opening the store door for someone behind you as you enter. Be aware of your surroundings if you can help someone is need. Let someone in when there’s traffic. Live and project acceptance so that anyone can approach you to ask for help. I can’t completely explain it now, but I have people approach me all the time. At times when I’m weight training, out of everyone there, someone approaches me to ask if I can spot them. Just recently, someone asked if I can jump start they’re car battery in the parking lot. I carry jumper cables and a tow rope just in case I can help someone stranded on the side road.

I honestly think that one of the greatest emotional poverty that can afflict the human soul is the loss of a generous and giving heart. You will know that a good part of your moral consciousness has slipped away when your genuine personal passion to help others has grown cold.

Giving is sharing. Sharing your financial wealth or money with others through charitable creditable organizations is sharing yourself and sharing your labor of love with them. Giving is your gratitude and appreciation in action. There is something so amazing about giving. The Joy of Giving is one of the Greatest God given powers you possess. So, use it!